Couples Counseling

Couples Counseling

 

Marriage counseling can help you create a strong foundation that can go the distance. We love working with couples in all different stages of marriage.  Every couple struggles and seeking counseling sooner than later is the best gift and investment you can give your marriage. Learning early on how to handle the bumps, twist, and turns that come with marriage in healthy ways avoids the distance and coldness that create a roomate climate or possibly even divorce.

 

So, if any of these early warning signs apply to your situation. Let's schedule an appointment right away.

  1. Inability to resolve conflict in a healthy way.

  2. Depression.

  3. Lack of communication.

  4. Lack of sex drive.

  5. The needs of the other not being met (sex, communication, connection).

  6. Inability to compromise.

  7. Breakdown in communication.

  8. Confusion about the roles of each spouse in the marriage.

  9. Pornography.

  10. Deceit.

  11. Disagreement about parenting styles.

  12. Addictions.

  13. Dramatic change in interactional patterns.

 

Your marriage/relationship doesn’t have to end. There is hope!  So in your time together with the counselor you will unpack, explore and create an intimate partnership for the journey of life that is more than just great sex, but makes you feel known, connecting to your own heart and that of your spouses.

Proactive Couples: Laying A Strong Foundation


It's shortly after the fun of the ceremony and honeymoon when you start to sit a little deeper in your marriage. Or perhaps you have a couple of years under your belt and you feel the love diminishing between the two of you just a bit. It's nothing serious but you don't want to lose your best friend. You don't want to be like your parents, or neighbors or friends that are getting a divorce. You want to have a strong marriage that goes the distance but you realize at the same time you need some foundational skills in order to make it through.




Inattentive Couples: It's Time to Reconnect


Perhaps your marriage is far past the honeymoon stage and you guys are just on auto-polit moving through the day to day routine without any thought to the distance that is growing between you guys slowly. You are not entertaining divorce in the slightest bit, but you have decided that it's time to reinvest in the marriage, in your relationship and each other. You deserve a soft reset in order to get everything back on track.




Pre-Marital Counseling: How to a Great Start


What if I told you I had a secret weapon for your relationship? That it would add longevity to your relationship. Create a friendship that can go the distance. Lay a strong foundation for the journey of love you're about to embark upon? Enhance romance and intimacy. Not only that but it would have you approaching and handling conflict in a new and intimate way. A way that afforded you the opportunity to dive into your partners life, gain understanding and insight and actually resolve conflicts. For those engaged or pondering engagement look no further. We offer Pre-Marital Counseling that meets premarital requirements in a short 6-week, 60-minute class covering the Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. During our time together you and your partner will be guided on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship as you laugh your way into learning about: ​

  • Enhancing love maps
  • Nurturing fondness and admiration
  • Turning toward each other
  • Accepting influence
  • Solving solvable problems
  • Overcoming gridlock
  • Creating shared meaning
Class Details: Based on Dr. John Gottman's research, discover the fundamental principles in creating and maintaining a happy, healthy marriage. Straight forward approach yet profound in its effect. Each partner will get the Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Book, Companion Workbook which allows you to privately record answers and journal thoughtfully about the concepts in the book, along with interactive exercises in each chapter. **Personalized sessions are always available at special request. **christian premarital counseling @ couples request only




Distressed Couples: Both or One of You are Ready to Give Up


You're not positive when it happened but all of a sudden you don’t recognize the person sleeping next to you or perhaps you don’t remember the last time your spouse even slept next to you. It’s frustrating and heartbreaking to think that this is what your marriage has become. You ask yourself is this what it’s supposed to be now, living in a loveless marriage? What happened to the fun, the happiness we experienced in the beginning of our marriage or for that matter when we were dating? This can’t be my marriage. This must be a bad dream that I’m going to wake up from at any moment.




Variations


For those desiring Christian Couples Counseling we will add the disciplines of faith that pull from biblical teaching. Including elements such as:

  • Prayer
  • Use of scripture be it either read or referenced
  • Assigned Bible Studies, reading and retreats (I offer Right Now Media an Online Bible Study resource)
  • Explanation on how to integrate Christian truths and values into the marital relationship
For those that are in a Blended Marriage/Remarriage everything will be filtered through the complexities and uniquenesses that come from that situation covering topics such as:
  • Creating a remarriage that will last
  • Exploring the key qualities of happy remarriages
  • Exploring issues of communication, sexuality, and spiritually (if your coming for Christian Counseling) as it pertains to a remarriage
  • Children and parenting: Step Children, The ‘Us’ child
  • Successfully navigating thru the co-parenting relationship
  • Remarriage finances: Yours, Mine, Ours




Healing from Traumaand Affairs: Marriage 201


Spealised treatment using the research-based Gottman Method approach for treating couples impacted by affairs and trauma. An unbiased roadmap to compassionately serving you and providing hope to you guys as you struggle to rebuild a collapsed Sound Relationship House. Treating Trauma Using a therapeutic approach that interweaves individual PTSD treatment with Gottman Method Couples Therapy. Treating Affairs Learn and use tools that create trust and commitment within your relationship. Using the “Atone, Attune, and Attach” model for treating affairs. This model provides an unbiased approach that compassionately serves both partners as you struggle to rebuild a collapsed marriage. As a couple you will be empowered to not only rebuild your relationship, but also create immunity from future betrayals.





So what will our time look like together?  

Most recently I completed the Gottman Level 1 Training an emotion-focused, and highly effective couples approach based on Dr. John Gottman’s 40 years of compelling research.  With the expectation to:

  • Give couples a report with personalized results of their relationship

  • Help couples learn to manage conflict,

  • Deepen friendship and intimacy,

  • Share their life purpose and dreams.

  • Gain new insights into their relationship

  • Practical interventions

  • Explore and clarify roles

  • Create rituals of connection on a weekly, monthly and yearly basis

  • Explore, create and establish health marital boundaries and guardrails

  • Discover each other’s love and apology language

  • Create realistic expectations surrounding routines, roles, parenting and marriage

  • Explore, learn and practice healthy communication

  • Identify and breakfree of unhealthy relationship patterns

  • Discover and implement the healthy dance of submission

  • Build on relationship strengths and improve areas of weakness

  • Enhance your love maps

  • Nature your fondness and admiration

  • See your partner as a friend, not an enemy

  • Enhance Trust

  • Deeper understanding of self and spouse

  • Learn how to communicate needs openly and clearly

  • Process and work through unresolved issues

 

Additional Resources for the Journey

Relationship Quizzes

The Relationship Quizzes blog column offers quizzes to help you assess the strengths in your relationship and identify areas that may need attention.

Note: These quizzes are intended to be psychoeducational. If you would like a full evaluation of your relationship, you can ask your therapist to invite you to complete the Gottman Relationship Checkup.

NOT LOOKING FOR COUPLES COUNSELING JUST YET?

Or perhaps your marriage is not in need of that level of intensity and individuality that counseling brings.  Perhaps a couples workshop will be a perfect match.  Check back for more information about upcoming workshops.

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