Divorced/Blended Family

Different doesn't mean broken

As you sit in the chaos of today you can't imagine a tomorrow that isn't draining, difficult and/or painful.   Let's face it, no one really starts a marriage with divorce in sight.  So, when it happens life can quickly go from right side up to upside down.  Everyone instantly has their own motives, best intentions, agenda's and lots of raw emotions.  People act uncharacteristic and end up exasperating and already difficult situation. And then there are the kids.  The kids that you feel so helpless about as they navigate the many unexpected twist and turns of your divorce.  

 Divorce doesn't have to be your families identity.

Though divorce can be difficult for most, as emotions run high and patience runs low it doesn't have to run or ruin your life or that of your children.  There is hope.  Your child doesn't have to be a divorce static and you and your co-parent can both survive and thrive through this often unexpected chapter of your life.  

At Traveling Light Counseling we are here to help!

 

We can help if you're coming in as one parent,  a parenting team, or want help for your children.   We will help by bringing a little sanity, perspective and clarity to your situation.  

So if you find yourself to be: 

  • Recently divorced/separated

  • Recently married

  • Struggling to co-parent successfully

  • Struggling with your new Step Family

  • Stuck in a pattern of destruction

  • Exasperated

  • Overwhelmed

  • At the end of self

  • At the end of circumstances

  • Want to conquer challenges more effectively

And/or if you find your child to be: 

  • Struggling to adjust to the changes

  • Regressive behaviors

  • Fear of being abandoned

  • Clinginess

  • Overwhelmed

  • Pervasive anxiety or sadness

  • Intense anger

  • Aggressive behavior exhibited in play and also toward parents

  • Shaken sense of identity

  • School or peer difficulties

  • Profound sense of loss

  • Depression

  • Loyalty conflicts

  • Academic problems

  • Pseudo-maturity (i.e. sexual activity)

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Grief & Loss

Helping children transition from what was to what will be.

Grief and loss is a painful journey.  It's unpredictable.  It holds you hostage until you work the steps and kids going through divorce have quite a lot of steps to navigate.  Catch your breath because at Traveling Light Counseling we will help your child manage the waves of grief that comes with having a heart in two homes by helping them:

  • work through the cycle of grief and pain in order to process through the steps of grief in a healthy way, in their own time frame and in their own way

  • create a coping tool kit in order to navigate the triggers in life.

  • reestablish a new norm in order to live a life with intention and meaning.

  • unpack the separation/divorce, processing their feelings, questions and thoughts

  • developing coping skills

  • accepting new step-parents

  • communication skills to express their feelings and talk with their parents 

Reconnecting: Blended Family

Families are built for adventure but having a step family comes with a little more twist and turns.  We will help step families:​

  • adjust expectations

  • create a strong parenting and co-parenting team

  • clarify parent and step parent roles

  • problem solve the pitfalls that are common to step families

  • re-establish a new norm, creating new rituals and points of connection 

Co-Parenting

How you parent with your ex can make a big difference in the life of your child in more ways than you can imagine!  Is it easy?  Not, all the time!  Is it worth it?  Yes, it is!     Catch your breath because at Traveling Light Counseling we will help you give your kids a drama free life by helping parents:

  • learn emotional coaching skills in order for you to help your child through the ups and downs of his/her emotions

  • navigate through adversity

  • creating realistic expectations

  • understand the dynamics of divorce and how it impacts children

  • improve communication techniques

  • co-parent without killing each other

  • create healthy boundaries

  • unpack the do's and don'ts of co-parenting well

  • learn the art of compromise in order to mutually agree on what's best for the kids

Additional Resources for your journey

NOT LOOKING FOR COUNSELING JUST YET?

Too much going on to process everything and create a game plan?  Or perhaps you guys are one of the few that are divorcing well and you are just looking to complete the divorce class in the moment.  Click here to learn about the online version.  

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Let the adventure begin to a lighter and brighter tomorrow with the unpacking of today's struggles in order to receive tomorrow's blessings!  We are honored that you have chosen Traveling Light Counseling to meet your needs!

Call 772-361-8448 x1  to schedule a therapy session or consultation for counseling today.