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  • Writer's pictureYvette E. McDonald, LCSW-QS

Discovering Your Inner Why: Exploring the Power of Therapy

Occasionally, I encounter individuals and/or couples that enter counseling with misguided motivations, seeking it for external validation, to fix others, or as a quick solution to complex issues in their personal lives. Unfortunately, approaching counseling in this manner with such intentions can lead to more harm than good. The reality is that true therapeutic progress requires a genuine commitment to self-reflection and personal growth.

When individuals engage in counseling for the wrong reasons, they may resist the transformative process, hindering the development of authentic insights and coping mechanisms. Their heart is just not in it and the disconnect between expectations and reality will inevitably create frustration and disappointment, further exacerbating mental health challenges.

It's crucial for individuals to enter counseling with a sincere desire for self-improvement and a willingness to engage in the collaborative and introspective journey that therapy entails.

Embarking on a therapeutic journey is a profound and personal decision, marked by an individual's unique motivations and aspirations. I strongly believe in the determination's of one's why as they either contemplate or begin their journey of counseling.

So, let's delve into the essence of defining the "Why" behind going to therapy—a self-reflective exploration that unveils the driving forces shaping one's path to healing and self-discovery.

1. The Quest for Understanding: For many, the pursuit of understanding oneself is a compelling force that propels them towards therapy. Whether navigating life transitions, grappling with unresolved issues, or seeking clarity amid chaos, the quest for understanding becomes a guiding light on the therapeutic journey.

2. Breaking Chains of Stigma: In a world where mental health stigma persists, choosing therapy becomes an act of resilience—a commitment to break free from societal constraints. Defining your "Why" may involve challenging stereotypes, embracing vulnerability, and contributing to the broader dialogue that normalizes seeking support for mental well-being.

Breaking the chains of stigma surrounding mental health within Black and Brown communities is a crucial step towards fostering holistic well-being. Historically, these communities have faced systemic barriers and cultural taboos that deter individuals from seeking counseling. To dismantle these chains, it is essential to challenge stereotypes, acknowledge the diverse experiences within these groups, and promote open conversations about mental health.

Breaking the chains of stigma is not just an individual endeavor; it's a collective movement toward creating inclusive spaces where seeking counseling is seen as a strength rather than a sign of weakness.

3. Cultivating Emotional Resilience: Therapy serves as a sanctuary for cultivating emotional resilience. Your "Why" might be rooted in the desire to equip yourself with the tools to navigate life's challenges more effectively, fostering a deeper connection with your emotional landscape.

4. Enhancing Relationship Dynamics: The pursuit of healthier relationships can be a powerful motivator. Whether healing from past wounds or seeking to improve communication skills, therapy becomes a transformative space where individuals can gain insights and skills to enhance the quality of their connections with others.

5. Embracing Personal Growth: Defining your "Why" may lead you to the doorway of personal growth. Therapy becomes a pathway for self-discovery, providing the tools and insights needed to unlock your full potential, fostering a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

In the journey to define your "Why" for going to therapy, recognize that your motivations are as unique as your fingerprint.

Whether it's the pursuit of:


breaking free from stigma,

cultivating resilience,

enhancing relationships, or

embracing personal growth

Your "Why" serves as a compass guiding you through the transformative terrain of therapy. As you navigate this introspective voyage, may you find solace, empowerment, and the profound realization that your journey is a testament to your commitment to self-love and well-being.

As you process your "Why" I want to commend you for taking this courageous step toward seeking counseling. I understand that reaching out for support can be a vulnerable and daunting process. Your decision to prioritize your mental well-being is a significant act of self-care, and I want you to know that you're not alone on this journey. In our counseling sessions, my aim is to create a safe and empathetic space where you can explore your thoughts and emotions at your own pace. Your reservations are acknowledged and respected, and we will work together to build trust and foster a supportive therapeutic relationship. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, and I am here to support you every step of the way. Your well-being matters, and I look forward to embarking on this journey of self-discovery and healing with you.


As a counselor and writer navigating the intricate landscape of neurodiversity with both autism and ADHD, my professional journey is a testament to the strength that comes from embracing diverse perspectives. Through the lens of my own experiences, I strive to illuminate the beauty and resilience inherent in neurodivergent individuals. As a counselor, I am committed to providing a safe and inclusive space, where the nuances of neurodiversity are not just understood but celebrated. In my writing, I aim to bridge gaps in understanding, fostering a broader dialogue that promotes acceptance and appreciation for the rich tapestry of human cognition. My dual roles as a counselor and writer converge in a passion for advocacy, championing the rights and unique strengths of neurodivergent individuals. In every word and session, I aspire to contribute to a world that recognizes and values the diverse ways we experience and navigate the world.


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