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  • Writer's pictureYvette E. McDonald, LCSW-QS

Finding Clarity in Divorce: The Role of Discernment Counseling

Divorce is a journey fraught with uncertainty and emotional upheaval. As someone who navigated the complexities of marital breakdown without the support of discernment counseling, I understand firsthand the profound need for resources that offer clarity and direction during times of distress. In this blog post, I'll share my personal experience and highlight the significance of discernment counseling as a vital resource for couples facing the crossroads of divorce.

My Story: A Journey Through Divorce Without Guidance

Over a decade ago, I found myself amidst the storm of divorce, grappling with the dissolution of my marriage without the guidance of discernment counseling. In those turbulent days, I was consumed by conflicting emotions, feeling lost and desperate for clarity amidst the chaos.

Without the structured support of discernment counseling, my former partner and I stumbled through the process, overwhelmed by our emotions and struggling to make sense of our relationship's breakdown. Despite recognizing the issues within our marriage, the fog of divorce clouded our ability to see clearly or make rational decisions.

Wishful Thinking: What Could Have Been with Discernment Counseling

Reflecting on that challenging period, I wish discernment counseling had been available to us. It could have provided a safe space for us to explore our thoughts, feelings, and desires regarding the future of our marriage. With the guidance of a trained professional, we could have navigated the emotional complexities of divorce with greater clarity and intention.

The Importance of Support: How Discernment Counseling Can Make a Difference

Divorce is a journey fraught with challenges, and having the right support can be transformative. Discernment counseling offers couples a structured framework to navigate their options, gain insight into their relationship dynamics, and make informed decisions about their future.

In retrospect, I recognize the immense value of discernment counseling as a resource for couples facing the possibility of divorce. While I didn't have the opportunity to utilize it during my own marital challenges, I advocate wholeheartedly for its importance in providing support, clarity, and direction during times of distress.

Finding Clarity and Confidence Through Discernment Counseling

For anyone currently grappling with the decision of whether to stay or leave, I urge you to consider the benefits of discernment counseling. It offers a lifeline amidst the uncertainty of divorce, providing couples with the guidance and support they need to navigate their relationship with confidence and insight. Your journey through divorce may be challenging, but with the right resources, clarity and peace are within reach.


As an individual with Autism and ADHD, as well as a counselor and writer, I navigate the intricacies of neurodiversity firsthand, championing diverse perspectives. In counseling, I foster a safe, inclusive environment that celebrates neurodiversity. Through my writing, I aim to enhance understanding and appreciation for the complexity of human cognition. By advocating for the rights and strengths of neurodivergent individuals, I am dedicated to fostering a world that embraces diverse experiences.


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